I’ve read Curly Girl: The Handbook by Lorraine Massey. This is the book that the true curly girl method is based on. I read the book after over 2 years of following “curly girl method” related YouTube channels, forums and groups.
I’ve spent a ton of time in wavy/curly hair platforms online. So…I was really surprised that what the internet calls ‘the curly girl method’ is one thing, and the true curly girl method from the book is something different.
This is particularly relevant to me with this blog, too. I know that most people online have a concept of what the curly girl method is, and use that term when searching for content. So in a sense, it would make sense for me to use the term, too, to help them find me.
Yet…that’s a little strange to do if what I am referring to doesn’t match the real curly girl method. I feel weird about my use of ‘curly girl method’ and thought doing a blog post explaining the different ways “CGM” is used, and what I mean when I use it, will help clear things up.
What is the curly girl method?
The curly girl method is a method of haircare based on Lorainne Massey’s book Curly Girl: The Handbook. It advocates for using botanical-based products and avoiding ingredients it considers harsh. It says to never use sulfates, silicones, drying alcohols, brushes, combs or heat tools.
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What I learned about the true curly girl method that surprised me…
The real curly girl method puts a big emphasis on plant-based ingredients. I have heard there are slight differences in different versions of the book, I read the version that had a copyright date of 2010, for your reference.
Massey repeatedly references using “botanical conditioners” in the book. It does mention avoiding sulfates, silicones and drying alcohols, but advocating for using botanical-based ingredients is referenced constantly. It says to look for conditioners that have high concentration of plant-based ingredients like mint, lemongrass or rosemary.
It also says to make sure they’re listed in the top half of the ingredients list to ensure that it’s not a negligible amount. In my 2+ years in curly groups online, I had never heard people reference botanical ingredients or those 3 ingredients at all.
The portion of the book about store-bought products is tiny!
The chapter on products (Chapter 8) is 13 pages long (counting each side of a sheet of paper as 1 page). Only two of those pages what you should look for, and what you should avoid, in store-bought products. The rest of the chapter, is referencing homemade hair recipes.
The recipes listed in this chapter call for using food ingredients like powdered egg, pasta water, brown sugar, and avocado to make hair masks. In multiple places in the book, it references making a spray with just water and lavender essential oil, and spritzing your hair to refresh it and combat any odors during washes.
This focus on homemade and natural products is probably what surprised me most about the book.
What techniques and routine guidelines really come from the book
The handbook talks about how traditional towels can cause frizz, and suggests using a smoother material to dry your hair. It specifically mentions t-shirts, paper towels or microfiber t-shirts instead. The book references using these fabrics and “Scrunch-squeezing” your hair.
Online this is known as microplopping. It shares root-clipping techniques. It doesn’t talk about wrapping your hair in a t-shirt (what we call plopping online).
It advocates for using gel.
It speaks out against chemical relaxing, blow-drying (it always says “blow-frying” in place of blow drying), curling irons, but says some gentle dyeing can be okay. It does differentiate between “blow frying” and diffusing, even recommending diffusing for people with wavy or s’wavy hair. It does say to use low to medium.
It is very strongly against using heat outside of diffusing, though. There are some Q and A sections throughout the book and there are two that reference if using heat occasionally is okay. In both cases it says no, it is not okay to blow dry even on rare occasion.
It says to avoid gels that have parabens and phthalates. I don’t see this discussed often online.
Is the curly girl method scientifically proven?
There are no scientific sources cited in the Curly Girl: The Handbook book. It does list sources for photos, but none for backing up claims like “sulfates are harsh”, or for showing evidence of why botanical ingredients are healthier for curly hair.
How The Label “curly girl method” Is Used Online
Online, I’d say that most people think “curly girl method” basically means:
- Avoid silicones that aren’t water soluble
- Avoid sulfates except when clarifying
- Don’t use heat
Though it sometimes also gets more detailed and includes:
- Use gel
- Don’t comb/brush your hair except in the shower
- Plop your hair
- Cowash only
Some of this aligns with aspects of the book. Yet, it leaves out parts of the book that felt highly emphasized, too – like botanical ingredients. It also seems to add some things (like plopping) that don’t actually come from the curly girl method book. Also, the book doesn’t discuss water-soluble vs non-water soluble silicones. It just says to avoid silicones altogether.
“Curly girl method” is a bit like “kleenex” and “q-tips”
How often do we buy generic cotton-swabs and still call it a q-tip? Or any brand of tissues yet call it a “kleenex”? It’s very common to do with these products and many others as well. I feel like this phenomenon has happened with the “curly girl method” in a sense.
I personally feel that “curly girl method” is primarily used online as a way of saying something like “I try to use gentle products”. Due to learning about the “curly girl method” online for 2 years before reading the book, I thought that “natural curly hair care” referenced your natural pattern.
I thought it was a way of saying “I’m embracing my natural texture, not trying to change it” or something like that. After reading the book, I realize it’s a natural method but that ‘nature’ isn’t referencing your natural hair texture, it’s referencing trying to use plant-based products. I think that part of the real curly girl method has completely been left behind by most people.
I have even occasionally seen people say they are doing the curly girl method except they use sulfates, or they use silicones. I believe what these people mean is that they are simply working to embrace their natural hair texture rather than curling it, perming it, or straightening it.
Embracing your natural hair texture isn’t really the same thing as the curly girl method, though. Yet somehow, “curly girl method” seems to have morphed into sometimes being used to reference almost any form of natural textured haircare.
What is modified curly girl method?
A modified curly girl method is when someone follows some principles of the curly girl method, but breaks some curly girl method “rules.” For example, they may avoid silicones, but use sulfates. Or, they may use some silicones but not others.
After reading Curly Girl: The Handbook and learning what the true curly girl method is…I’d say nearly everyone is actually doing a modified version of the curly girl method. I don’t think I follow anyone online who holds themselves to using products that are primarily plant-based as I haven’t seen that discussed at all.
Occasionally people use “modified curly girl method” as a way of saying that they just don’t follow the curly girl method really at all. I find it really interesting that the curly girl method (or at least, the internet-version of the curly girl method) is so mainstream that those who don’t follow it, still tend to identify their hair routine based on it!
What is the wavy girl method?
According to Kristine Marie Contreras, owner of the Facebook group Wavy Girl Method (official) – Wavy Hair Don’t Care the wavy girl method was coined by her. Wavy girl method isn’t a rigid method. Instead, it’s the belief that wavy hair often does better when breaking some curly girl method rules.
The wavy girl method encourages people with wavy hair to adapt the curly girl method based on whatever works better for them individually.
So, more than telling wavy-haired people what to do, it gives them the freedom to do whatever works for them. As a result, routines can vary really dramatically. However, it seems to me that most often, people who say they do wavy girl method are following some aspects of the curly girl method, while breaking some curly girl method rules.
Just as one example, someone who is doing their own wavy girl method might avoid most silicones, but use some water-soluble ones, and they might use sulfates twice a month to clarify. This is just one potential example of what could be called the wavy girl method, though.
For many with wavy hair, the wavy girl method can mean the exact same thing as following a modified curly girl method. I have an article about how I modify the curly girl method for my wavy hair. You could also call it my own version of a wavy girl method, if you wanted.
I also have a whole blog post on the wavy girl method if you want to know more. I shared a wavy girl method starter routine in that post!
What Is Natural Textured Hair Care?
Natural textured hair care (aka natural wavy haircare or natural curly hair care) is a broad term for hair care that embraces your natural texture rather than trying to alter it. The main things that are NOT natural textured hair care would be using chemical treatments that alter your texture (chemical straightening or perms) and heat manipulation (flat irons or curling irons).
The problem with “curly girl method” having so many different uses/meanings
For most people, whether they call their haircare routine curly girl method, or wavy girl method, or modified CGM, or whether they just say they do natural curly hair care – or some other label, really doesn’t matter whatsoever.
As a blogger, I find it to be a bit of a problem. I know what the real curly girl method is, so I feel funny using the phrase ‘curly girl method’ if I am not referencing the literal curly girl method..which I never really am, as I don’t focus on botanical ingredients.
It can feel slightly dishonest to use “curly girl method” in my blog posts or titles when I am not following the book very closely.
However, I know that most people online who are searching for content about the girly curl method don’t care about botanical ingredients. What they care about is embracing their natural textured hair while avoiding sulfates and silicones that are not water-soluble. And that, I do (mostly) follow.
I will continue to use ‘curly girl method’ in my content when it is fitting based on the popular understanding of what curly girl method means, even though it isn’t really what the true curly girl method is, according to the book.
Just to be clear – when I use “curly girl method” on this blog I will primarily be referencing methods of haircare that involve avoiding sulfates (except when clarifying), and avoiding non-water-soluable silicones, and drying alcohols. That is the most common understanding of what the curly girl method is.
I hope people are able to understand why I am choosing to do this. It’s not to claim to follow a method that I don’t follow, but just to use the terminology the way that it is most commonly understood.
If you want to learn more about the “curly girl method” or naturally textured hair care – check out my wavy hair blog post directory. It’s a page that lists links to all of my blog posts, by title.
Kristine Contreras didnt “create” anything. She started a group TWO years ago, and then just this year started claiming to have made WGM…But this isn’t true at all..
Believe it or not, she had moderators and other who were on her team before these… And as a blogger, im going to caution you about putting things in print that aren’t true…
Do your research before you post.
Emily Evert says
Your comment comes off aggressive and that isn’t necessary. I attempt to do thorough research and would not intentionally publish anything untrue. I’m open to being corrected if I do publish something untrue by mistake. I’m happy to have conversations about my content, and to be given sources that may disagree with something I’ve posted, etc.
My wording in this post says that according to Kristine, she coined the wavy girl method. I have never been able to find anything about the wavy girl method beyond what Kristine has posted in her group. If you know of any better sources, I’d really love to see them as I have looked multiple times but have come up short. There is a surprising lack of information about the history of the curly girl method and other similar natural hair care techniques. I know it is commonly debated if the curly girl method techniques were really created by Lorainne Massey, for example. Many claim that her techniques were created by various Black women and that she basically put them in a book ad put her name on it. I’ve attempted to find out who the ideas truly originated from, but have found nothing beyond the vague statements that they were stolen from the black community. Then I’ve also seen Black hair specialists say that the curly girl method techniques are not suitable for type 4 hair. For example, plopping afro-type hair wouldn’t work because it doesn’t respond to gravity in the same way that looser curl types do. So my instinct is that perhaps some of the methods shared in the CGM handbook were stolen from the black community but others were not? I have no way of finding this out, though.